Contributions to the tribute of Nancy B. Cross

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Friday, December 30, 2022

United Methodist Church of New Canaan

165 South Ave

New Canaan, Connecticut, United States

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December

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11:00 am - 12:00 pm

Saturday, December 31, 2022

United Methodist Church of New Canaan

165 South Ave

New Canaan, Connecticut, United States

Claudia Boerst posted a condolence

Wednesday, December 28, 2022

I first met Nancy when she was training to become a HAHA clown, "Health And Humor Associates" at Stamford Hospital. Nancy was a wonderful clown: kind, caring, gentle, full of fun, always ready to jump in, both as a clown, a friend, participating in as many things the HAHA's were invited to help with... Cancer Walks in June, dinners and special events at the hospital, if she was available, she was there. After Nancy graduated at our special HAHA graduation walking under our balloon arch, and clowned around in the hospital rooms for the patients and staff, she was thrilled to participate as a trainer. It was alway wonderful having Nancy serve on the training committees, she had such good input, AND she was ORGANIZED! If we were looking for past information, someone's name, when they trained, what their clown name was, she would flip through her notebook and quickly pull up the info we needed! I'd be making a balloon animal for a patient and searching for my sharpie in my 4 pockets, and she would pull one out of her pocket and say, "here... use mine"! Meanwhile, I'm still searching! We all choose our clown "doctor" names. Nancy's was "Dr. A. Joy" to honor her dear granddaughter Angela Joy, who lost her life to cancer as a teen. Whenever she went into a hospital room and learned that the patient had lost a loved one, or was dying, she would quietly stay back to spend extra time with him/her. Nancy would walk into our monthly meetings, and if she wasn't carrying a dessert, someone would ask "what, no Kelly bars?" named for one of her granddaughters. Then she'd pull them out of her bag! She bragged about all of her family, shared pictures, stories, which grandchild drove her to the airport to visit her sister or others, every year she would bring a sister to a clown convention. She always had a red, white, & blue costume for whichever family member would wear one somewhere. I will miss Nancy so very much, it is painful. To end, I'll leave you picturing Nancy, Alison (also a HAHA clown), Adam, and when we were lucky Stephanie would be there at our yearly picnic all wearing bright yellow t-shirts with BIG smile faces on them! Nancy was awesome! I will miss her!

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Friday, December 23, 2022

Nancy Cross was a dear friend of my Mom, Katherine Chann. Nancy was one of the first people I met when my mom moved to Meadow Ridge. Nancy made my mom feel at home and was a key reason that made my mom’s move from a house in Wilton to Meadow Ridge a pleasant experience. Nancy embodies the words “unconditional acceptance”. She always has your needs in mind. From asking you how you’re doing, to making candy canes with red bows and little eyes to make them look like animals. Oh, then if you’re lucky to be around during Halloween, she would dress up as a clown and walk up to you and bring a smile to your face. I’m sure her family is deeply missing her and having the emotions from that, but one day perhaps that will pass and you’ll see her “work”. She’s an amazing person. She was and is a dear friend to many. A common saying is “unconditional love” but Nancy puts that to actual work and defines love as unconditional acceptance. We would all be a better person if even if for one day, we wore clown shoes. Thank you Nancy for taking notice of me and sharing your time with me. And to her family, my prayer is that your hearts will heal and you’ll not forget her work. Her passing reminds us of the value of spending our time with others.

jeffreyrcross@gmail.com Posted Dec 24, 2022 at 6:52 PM

Thank you for your poignant reflections of Nancy Cross, the life she lived, and the impact she had on others. How she loved learning and playing Mah Jong with your mom, bringing chocolate Texas sheet cake to the occasion. Kay was such a dear friend, and we will miss seeing her at Meadow Ridge. Love, Jeff (and Alison, Bruce, Martha and Susie) Cross

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Marie Reeve posted a condolence

Thursday, December 22, 2022

We are both shocked and saddened to hear of Nancy’s passing. We extend our deepest condolences to her family who are in our prayers and thoughts. We were introduced to Nancy by Alison when first moving to Madison and invited to spend our first Thanksgiving, then many more with her wonderful family.. Nancy was so warm and loving…..everyone’s Mum. Nancy’s spirit, generosity and Joy in life was an inspiration to us all. Her deep sense of caring and compassion was reflected in the Joy she brought to so many through many years of “clowning”. Colin and I feel privileged and honored to have known this incredible lady. She remains in our hearts and memories as a truly special angel now joining her wonderful husband Reid. Rest In Peace, Marie & Colin

jeffreyrcross@gmail.com Posted Dec 24, 2022 at 6:58 PM

Dear Marie & Colin, thank you for sharing such a lovely tribute to Nancy “Natty” Cross. She loved having company for any occasion, but especially the holidays - kids, grandkids and friends alike. You meant so much to her. XO Alison, Bruce, Jeff, Martha and Susie

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Alison Hubley Posted Dec 28, 2022 at 8:25 AM

Marie & Colin, My mom considered you both dear friends. We were so happy to gather with you and Emma for several Thanksgivings in New Canaan and at Meadow Ridge. God bless you all! Love, Alison

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Mary Bellavia posted a condolence

Wednesday, December 21, 2022

As a HAHA Clown I had the honor to be in Nancy's (Dr. A. Joy), presence. I always admired the loving mother-daughter relationship Nancy had with Allison. Their home-made, very Patriotic red/white/blue costumes were so cute! Nancy was always so kind & patient teaching us how to make many things out of balloons. Nancy was very soft spoken and always showed a true interest in whoever she was talking to. She made you feel important. Nancy was loved by everyone who knew her. She will be truly missed. God has a beautiful "Clown Angel" now. May God hold you tight, Allison, and all your beautiful family.

Alison Hubley Posted Dec 28, 2022 at 8:29 AM

Mary, The HAHA clown program was very important to my mom as she loved spreading joy to hospital patients, nurses, and all staff. The Health & Humor Associates are a wonderful group of people/clowns. Thank you for your kindness! Alison

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Christine Sima posted a condolence

Wednesday, December 21, 2022

My prayers are for you Alison. "Fancy Nancy" was adorable when she dressed up and cruised the fellowship hour at church. She gave me a round yellow "smile God loves you" sticker a few years ago and I still have it stuck to one of my journals. It makes me me happy (and smile, of course!) every time I see it. Peace and Angels be with you, Christine

Alison Hubley Posted Dec 28, 2022 at 8:27 AM

Christine, My mom always loved spending time at FCC Madison at Soup & Bingo, the Strawberry Festival, the church fair, the Memorial Garden service, etc. It gave her joy to pass out stickers, make balloons, etc. Thank you for caring! Alison

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Dot & Bill Bowdon posted a condolence

Tuesday, December 20, 2022

The gist of our thoughts we already shared with the family expressing our love for Nancy Cross and the Cross family are summarized below for the record. When Nancy was in your presence, you always were happier as a result. For the six years we were in New Canaan in the 1960s we were near neighbors of the Crosses, both families active members in the New Canaan Methodist Church, and close personal friends. The fond memories memories we have of Nancy and her family have remained with us, and will always be there. Nancy and the Cross family will always be among the best friends we will ever have. While we are sure that the angels in Heaven are praying for those still on earth suffering over Nancy's passing, we are just as sure that the Angels are rejoicing over having her with them. With love from Dot and Bill Bowdon

jeffreyrcross@gmail.com Posted Dec 24, 2022 at 7:05 PM

Beautiful sentiment, Bill and Dot., you and your family were such dear friends when living in NC and at the UMC. Bless you all! Love, Alison, Bruce, Jeff, Martha and Susie

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Alison Hubley Posted Dec 28, 2022 at 8:31 AM

Dear Bill & Dot, You and your family have been our close friends for many years. We enjoyed spending time with y'all in New Canaan and in Houston. Sir Arthur & Nancerina are finally reunited. God bless you all! Love, Sweet Potato Blossom

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Sally McCue uploaded photo(s)

Tuesday, December 20, 2022

Nancy Bechert Cross was a woman of true integrity and deep faith. Her love and devotion to her beautiful family was unparalleled, and never more apparent than when they gathered frequently en masse around her large table to share a homecooked meal. Nancy kept the essence of her granddaughter Angela close by always, and especially through her heartfelt clowning and volunteer work. And she managed to do this while tending to and fully appreciating all of her grandchildren's unique and admirable qualities. Nancy was equally as devoted to her friends, her church, and all who crossed her path as "Fancy Nancy." She was an intelligent, capable woman, salt of the earth, pragmatic, adventurous, and an incredible role model for us girls who grew up needing to see how a woman can embody the perfect balance of self assurance and service to others. Nancy's love of nature, and especially for our dogs, was a joy that she and I openly shared. Nancy's home and yard became a second home to my dog over the years when I traveled to Connecticut frequently to visit my brother. I knew Nancy as one of my mother's best friends, but she became my friend too. Her sweet voice, warm hugs, and genuine interest in my life were always comforting and uplifting. Nancy and my mother, Pat McCue, had a deep and abiding friendship that showed all of us the great importance of nurturing and maintaining lifelong friendships. Nancy and Pat were like sisters, and their two families have become like family as well. I love Nancy. I know that her legacy is one of love and compassion and service. Those of us who knew her well know that her life was filled with light. She exuded light. It was palpable. She is one of the brightest stars in a sky full of those who have gone before her. I will look for her there and be grateful that she has been my loving friend.

Alison Hubley Posted Dec 28, 2022 at 8:33 AM

Sally, Nancy, Reid, & Pat were all such close friends. We feel the same way about Pat as you do about our mom. My mom loved having you visit with Chance. All the birthday parties for Billy were so special, and we were honored to attend. I'll never forget getting snowed in at your home in Stamford for days, walking to the grocery store, etc. We love the McCues! Love, Alison

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Saturday, December 17, 2022

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(203) 966-0700
Fax: (203) 966-2736
hoytfh@hoytfuneralhome.com