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Tuesday, January 18, 2022
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I was stunned to learn of Dr.Schneider's passing. There are people who know how important Dr.Schneider was in my life and so I posted the following little story on my facebook page because I knew those who understood would want to know about the loss. I hope that this message reaches his family. I uploaded a detail from a painting that I did, which I made into a print and planned to send to him. Anyway, that's why I included the photo. My deepest condolences to Dr. Schneider's family and friends. I hope this message reaches the family. The story that I'm sending here is very brief and hardly describes the extent of my life changing experiences with Dr. Schneider but it does express some of the depth of our connection and certainly the depth of his care and generosity! I've been working on a sort of memoir that would likely explain a lot more if I can ever get it done. Meanwhile, love to his family: David Joel
There are lives that get inside our sense of youthful permanence and they spare us from the way the world wants to dismiss us. We keep them for the day that we can adequately thank them for their generosity and lifeline and defiance in the face of every other no. We keep them until we’re accomplished and can give them back the dream they saw in us when they were there to help. Well, maybe not all of us but I think some of us might understand this.
When insurance companies cut me off because I did the unthinkable thing of surviving my first trip with cancer past the policy covered age of 21, my folks turned to a million dollar back up policy that was there as insurance against insurance. And even though I was covered under that one, the insurance company canceled the policy. They didn’t want to pay for a guy with cancer. That wasn’t good for business. So for my 22nd birthday I got a gift-wrapped pre-existing condition that at the time meant you couldn’t get insurance. We turned to Social Security and they told me that if I had any money at all, (I had been working since I was 16) I needed to spend it on the existing medical bills but “leave $1500 in your account to pay for your funeral expenses”. Yes, that is exactly what they said! In the mean time, I couldn’t get the Medicaid right away, it takes lots of time and red tape and when you’re dying there are other priorities that make bureaucracy seem - at the very least - like a waste of time - at best - a cruel criminal robber of time.
The point of all of this is I had an oncologist who took my case very personally. Maybe he liked that I was creative and young and technically (but for the threat of disease) filled with potential. So he treated me for free. He took care of the chemo and well, all those expenses and maybe when we finally did get Medicaid he might have accepted the pittance that they offered but it wasn’t nearly what was needed to provide the kind of life saving treatments the doc was giving me. I gave him a little painting back then to thank him but the painting was bad because well, the way I worked was upended by distractions and I needed a good solid 10 years before being able to make a painting again. I still struggle with the same issues that messed up my art stuff but that’s not the point. Anyway, I never lived up to the potential that anyone probably thought I had in my youth but I do continue to spill paint and other mediums around the obstacles that obstruct my view of that place where art comes from and so I wanted to give a print of one of my oversized paintings to this doctor… just to say hello and thanks because we haven’t spoken in a while and I thought he’d get a boot out of some of the imagery in this thing and you know, I was going to tell him that I plan to do more and I’d send him original work when I get more done, blah, blah, blah… So I looked for his contact info and couldn’t find a current contact … then I went on line and found a contact. Life changed his nearest address to a funeral home. The image that I posted is for you Doctor Schneider. It’s Saint Irene and Saint Sebastian a detail from the print I was going to send you. Rest in peace with the immortal memory of love. - D.
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Myra Alfreds posted a condolence
Thursday, December 17, 2020
My heart goes out to Dr. Schneider's family and friends. I just saw the certified letter and was shocked by the news. There are no words to describe the loss I feel. No one chooses to have cancer, but I feel I was privileged to meet this intelligent, caring, responsive man who was passionate about his profession and family. He was truly one of a kind.
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Iryna planted a tree in memory of Dr. Robert Schneider
Wednesday, December 9, 2020
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A tree was planted in memory of Dr. Robert Schneider
Wednesday, October 28, 2020
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Our warmest condolences, Dr Schneider was the most caring, warmest & brilliant Doctor . Jane & Joe Varcadipane
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Tatiana Solovey posted a condolence
Wednesday, October 28, 2020
Dr. Schneider saved my mom’s life. When everyone else gave up or failed, he took a risk and saved us. He never hesitated, never asked for anything, and gave so much. He wasn’t just a phenomenal doctor, he provided us with such a kind and calm guidance when we were all overtaken by panic and uncertainty. The most kind-hearted, caring, generous genius, truly one of a kind person. His memory will live forever. My deepest condolences to his entire family.
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Laura bohn planted a tree in memory of Dr. Robert Schneider
Sunday, October 25, 2020
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Deborah Hoffer posted a condolence
Saturday, October 17, 2020
Dr. Schneider was my Oncologist for over 23 years. He was brilliant, he was kind, he truly was remarkable and I trusted him with my life. He went above & beyond. He called me a week before he passed to tell me my blood work was "excellent ". I can honestly say he saved my life and I don't have a clue right now what I will do without him in it...it scares me to think about.
My heart goes out to his entire family and all his patients as well. We are in the same boat. To say I am devastated and heartbroken is an understatement.
RIP Dr. Schneider...I will forever miss you.
Deborah Hoffer.
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Ron Ulrichry posted a condolence
Friday, October 16, 2020
I served with Bob on the board of The New Canaan Country School. We were friends and we shared a number of memorable lunches in New York - usually at Le Cirque when it was in its prime. He was convivial, interesting, and great fun. He will be greatly missed.
Ron Ulrich
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Donna Centone lit a candle
Friday, October 16, 2020
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Dr. Schneider was the calm in the scariest time of my life. He gave me back the life cancer tried to rob me of. His compassion and dedication was second to none. He returned calls himself within minutes and always had an honest but encouraging words. I am so sad to hear of his passing. I thanked God for him many times during my treatment. I am sorry for his family's loss. His patients are eternally grateful for his care and will also miss him.
Donna Centone
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nt22a posted a condolence
Wednesday, October 14, 2020
Melanie and I send Bob's family our deepest condolences. Bob was a wonderful friend, a brilliant doctor and tremendous family person. He was there in a moment whenever he was needed and gave of his time, energy and money so generously. We will miss him forever, David and Melanie Worby
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Andrew Seidman posted a condolence
Tuesday, October 13, 2020
My heart goes out to Bob's family. I was privileged to call him "friend", as well as colleague.
I was indeed the recipient of his kindness and generosity, and will miss our conversations and exquisite lunches.
May his memory be a blessing to all who knew him.
Andrew Seidman, MD
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Salla Alfieri posted a condolence
Tuesday, October 13, 2020
Sending much love to Barbara and wishing the entire Schneider family comfort as you celebrate Bob, a truly remarkable man whose spirit will shine brightly into eternity. I will never forget his kindness, his profound and innate intelligence, nor his sense of humor. Anyone who came to contact with him was elevated by his empathy and wise counsel.
I believe Bob would appreciate these words by Khalil Gibran.
Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing.
And when you have reached the mountain top, then you shall begin to climb.
And when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance.
Love,
Salla
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Kendra Ward lit a candle
Sunday, October 11, 2020
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Carolyn DiCesare lit a candle
Saturday, October 10, 2020
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My deepest condolences to you Mrs Schneider and family I was honored to have meet Dr Schneider with my daughter in law Rene. He was so amazing with any health questions for me, he will always have a place in my heart for his kindness.
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Rene lit a candle
Saturday, October 10, 2020
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My sincere condolences to you Barbara and to all of Dr Schneider’s family. Words can not describe how much he will be missed and how thankful I am for the time we had. He was so special to so many countless people. I feel extremely lucky to have known him
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Thursday, October 8, 2020
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